When was the last time you received a letter? I’m not talking about the latest fund raising appeal from Greenpeace or the water bill. I mean an actual handwritten letter. When did you last write a letter to someone? I bet it’s been a while for both.
The ubiquity of email and texting has relegated the handwritten personal letter to the dustbin of history alongside house calls from your doctor and pre-dawn visits from the milkman. In our increasingly cold and impersonal world, letter writing is just one more thing that I mourn the passing of. A couple of years ago, I decided I would singlehandedly try and revive the lost art of letter writing. I sent long personal letters to seven close friends. I recieved one reply. Of course that hasn’t always been the case.
In the spring of 1979, a close friend of mine and I drove cross-country to relocate to California from New Jersey. With our minimum wage Tower Records salaries we were barely able to eek out a living. During our first three months here, owning a telephone was a luxury that we could not afford. We’d use the corner phone booth (ahhh phone booths, another dustbin relic!) to call our families on the east coast…collect! So for me, letter writing then was a lifeline, a way for me to keep in touch with those who I’d left behind. I worked mostly 4pm to midnight shifts at Tower so I’d come home late, smoke a little pot, listen to the late, great Americana radio station KFAT and write letters into the wee hours of the morning. It was an exhilarating and liberating period of my life but also sad and lonely at times too. I’d fill yellow legal pads with words; my hopes, dreams, and fears pouring out through my fingertips and onto the page. Writing is such a tactile experience. I love the feel of a pen as the nib drags across the paper leaving a trail of blue in its wake. Writing a letter requires time and patience, both being in short supply nowadays. Letter writing is the ultimate in delayed gratification. If I send a letter to someone on the east coast and they reply immediately, the fastest turnaround time I could hope for would be a week. The ways we communicate now often require instant replies. Letter writing also requires thought and a basic understanding of spelling and grammar. My Pilot G-2 .07mm pen does not contain spell check or auto correct. It’s up to me to catch my mistakes and to correct them. Every essay that I post on this blog begins as a handwritten piece.
During my seminal first years in California, I wrote countless letters to family and friends. If you could arrange them chronologically, the trajectory of my life at that time could be traced through those letters. There’s an old box in our garage which contains hundreds of replies I recieved during that time. Every once in a while I’ll dig that box out and rummage through it. Each one of those letters is unique. The sizes, shapes and colors of the envelopes are all different. There are so many cool stamps and postmarks too. My mom used to send me a few brightly colored leaves from our backyard trees every autumn. A letter from an old girlfriend still retains the faint scent of patchouli oil. With each letter, you get a little piece of the person who wrote it. Emails? They’re nothing but 1’s and 0’s, meant to be read and deleted. I doubt anyone prints out emails and saves them in a box.
It’s an uphill battle trying to retain a little of the personal touch in a world that grows more virtual every day. So writing letters is my way of pushing back; a small, personal rebellion against tweets and texts and automated voicemail. Keep your eyes on the mailbox, there just may be a letter from me tucked in there between the bills and junk mail.